Codependency is a learned behaviour that is given from one generation to the next. It is a psychological and behavioural condition which impacts somebody’s ability to have a healthy, mutually-satisfying relationship. It is likewise called “relationship dependency” due to the fact that individuals with codependency typically form or preserve relationships that are one-sided, mentally devastating or violent.
Signs of codependency can consist of:
- Having to control or “repair” scenarios
- Having to control or “repair” other individuals
- Blaming circumstances and other individuals for your sensations
- Difficulty in relying on others
- Avoiding your own genuine feelings
- Issues with, or fear of, intimacy
- Hypervigilance (an increased awareness of possible threats/danger).
- Living through, or for, another individual.
The Banyans comprehends the troubles and trauma that can be experienced by the families and loved ones of our clients. We believe that they require treatment as much as our clients do. In addition, we provide a complete treatment program for individuals who are experiencing codependency issues and need assistance.
Who Does Codependency Affect?
Codependency often affects spouses, mums and dads, brother or sister’s, kids, pals or coworkers of an individual experiencing an alcohol/drug addiction or other mental condition. Initially, the term “codependent” was utilised to describe partners who coped with or were in a relationship with, an addicted person. Comparable patterns have actually been seen among individuals in relationships with chronically-ill or mentally-ill individuals. Nowadays, however, the term has broadened to explain any codependent individual from any inefficient household.
A dysfunctional family is one whose members experience worry, anger, pain, or pity which is neglected or rejected. Underlying problems might consist of any of the following:.
A member of the family’s dependency on drugs, alcohol, relationships, work, food, sex or gambling.
The existence of physical, psychological or sexual assault.
The existence of a family member suffering from a chronic psychological or physical illness.
Inefficient households do not acknowledge or face the existence of their issues, which causes a member of the family to repress their feelings and disregard their own needs. They end up being “survivors” and develop methods to help them reject, ignore or prevent tough feelings. They remove themselves. They don’t talk. They don’t touch. They don’t confront. They do not feel. They do not trust.
The emotional development of the members of a dysfunctional family is often inhibited. Attention and energy are concentrated on the needy member(s) of the family, with the codependent person generally sacrificing their own needs at the same time. When co-dependents rank other individuals’ health, well-being and security above their own, they lose contact with their own requirements, desires and sense of self.
How Do Codependents Act?
Codependents have low self-esteem and try to find anything outdoors themselves to make them feel much better. They discover it tough to “be themselves”. Some attempt to feel much better through alcohol and drugs and may become addicts themselves. Others might establish compulsive behaviours, such as gambling or sex and love dependency.
Codependents have good intentions. They try to take care of a person who is experiencing difficulties, however, their care ends up being compulsive and self-defeating. Their repeated rescue attempts allow the needy person to continue on their destructive course which, in turn, makes them, even more, dependent on the unhealthy care provided by the codependent. As such reliance boosts, the codependent establishes a sense of reward and satisfaction from feeling needed. When their care ends up being compulsive, codependents feel helpless in their relationships, however, are unable to break their cycle of behaviour which causes and strengthens it.